Before you go further with reading this, I’m going to add to it and make myself clear: there is a *difference* between a single parent who did not set out to be a single parent and a single parent who had every intention of being a single parent. The glorification of single parenthood by design and intention and the desire to be a single parent will be the death of this country. No, I’m not intending to cast aspersions on people who become single parents because the other spouse leaves them or dies. I *am* casting aspersions on women who run off to the sperm bank to get a baby with the expressed intention of being a single parent.
There has never been a study to show it beneficial to a child to live in a single parent household. You see it frequently in minority communities and how it effects the children and the families. And now there has been a rash of articles from the New York Times to the AJC about women who want kids, but don’t want the penis to tag along.
Well, I’m sure glad they get all fulfilled and feel selfishly accomplished, and I’m sure they feel like their children are well adapted and fine. But they aren’t. And they won’t be. And I do think there should be laws prohibiting single people from adopting and I’m almost inclined to think single people should not have access to sperm banks.
Yes that is awfully primitive of me, but so be it.
The AJC article linked to above reminded me of this stupid article in the New York Times day before yesterday.
In 2005, 51 percent of women said they were living without a spouse, up from 35 percent in 1950 and 49 percent in 2000.
Coupled with the fact that in 2005 married couples became a minority of all American households for the first time, the trend could ultimately shape social and workplace policies, including the ways government and employers distribute benefits.
Yeah for single women! Only, for some reason, to be able to celebrate the rise of single women into the majority, the Times had to really stretch its statistical credibility. See if you can catch what Mr. Lileks and I caught:
Among the more than 117 million women over the age of 15, according to the marital status category in the Census Bureau’s latest American Community Survey, 63 million are married. Of those, 3.1 million are legally separated and 2.4 million said their husbands were not living at home for one reason or another.
That brings the number of American women actually living with a spouse to 57.5 million, compared with the 59.9 million who are single or whose husbands were not living at home when the survey was taken in 2005.
Let me make the block quote a little more precise:
Among the more than 117 million women over the age of 15
Just think about that and laugh.
I sure hope like hell there is not a rash of 15 and 16 year olds getting married outside Alabama anymore!
NOTE: Just to clarify, I’m not beating up single parents, per se. It happens. It’s a sad fact of society. And I think the government has a special obligation to help struggling single parents who are single parents through abandonment or death of a spouse. Single women who don’t have an abortion are to be applauded. But, I do think there is something seriously wrong with people who *intend* to be single parents.