I’m usually sympathetic to people who get others angry by flying the American flag. But after years of dealing with stuff like this as a lawyer, I put the brakes on for this.
Let’s make it simple. You move into a subdivision. You are given a copy of the rules. One of the rules prohibits outdoor structures like 20 foot flag poles. You have NO EXCUSE to cry to the paper about your rights being infringed, etc. when you are asked to take it down.
Suck it up, Kowalski!